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I recently found someone’s list of the top ten mental mistakes golfers make and how to correct them instantly. As I disagree with much of the “how to correct them instantly“ advice, I’ve included his first 5 mental mistakes below with my suggestions as to how address them with NLP and Golf Hypnosis. I’ll continue with his other 5 mental mistakes tomorrow …
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Two stories have got me thinking about the power of positive framing for better golf performance and the increased enjoyment of this wonderful game. In NLP terms this is called Reframing.
I was talking to an old golfing friend of mine about his round of golf. I’d like to stress that he’s not a client and just isn’t interested in talking to me about golf psychology – he’s still a good friend, though. Anyway, he was moaning about the condition of the course that day and how on every shot he just seemed to have a worse lie than he expected. If he was on the edge of the fairway, the ball was nestling against the edge of the rough. If he was in the bunker, it hadn’t been raked properly. If he was on the green, there was always a pitch mark just in front of his ball. He just went on and on about his bad luck and how bad he felt about it. And he wished he hadn’t played at all that day. I wasn’t surprised to hear that he’d had a bad round and hadn’t enjoyed himself and the company of his golfing friends
Earlier that day, I’d heard a story about Justin Rose that put my friend’s experience into sharp contrast. Now I don’t know if you are aware that one of the US golf networks is experimenting with equipping caddies in PGA tournaments with microphones. The idea is that we can better hear the exchanges between caddie and player. This certainly sounds interesting …
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I was working with a client recently who wanted golf improvement without formal hypnosis for a destructive problem he had when playing golf. Let’s call him Alan for the sake of client confidentiality. I’ve changed a few other details as well for the same reason. Alan’s an enthusiast at everything he does – from work to golf to family. The priority sequence changes, but the enthusiasm’s consistent across all three. He’s also as honest and true to his friends as the day is long.
So let’s focus on golf. Well Alan’s a hard-working golfer, practising or playing most days, somehow. He has a good swing, is excellent around the greens and is an instinctively superb putter. He’s good at visualisation as well and practices stepping into the shoes of his golfing heroes. He often practices on his own with two balls – one played in his mind by Tiger Woods and the other by Jack Nicklaus. He also works hard on his physical fitness with long cross-country walks and almost daily workouts in the pool – whatever the weather.
Alan’s problem in golf is that he consistently scores much worse than he should due to unforced errors – accidents you could say …
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How much do you berate yourself when you play a bad shot at golf? If you’re a typical golfer the answer is pretty badly! In fact, you probably use language that you’d never use in public. It’s a good thing that you save the worst things for expression privately in your head. Just imagine how you would feel if your fourball or foursome partner said the same things to you after you hit a bad shot. You’d be horrified and you’d probably make a mental note never to play with them again.
What’s possibly worse is that many players have similar negative internal dialogue whenever they plan and execute a shot. They recall all the bad shots they’ve ever hit in this situation and focus more on what can go wrong than on what they’re trying to do …
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NLP anchoring provides a very effective method for stacking and anchoring our past resources and positive experiences. We can call upon these resources whenever we need them for golfing excellence.
In the About the Golf Hypnotist page on my website, I outline my experience of using anchoring resources to talk about using NLP resource anchoring to build and hold together a really good round of golf. The words I used there were
“I was just so calm and composed. Despite not hitting the ball that well, I hit 16 of the first 17 holes in regulation and hit a long drive up the middle on 18. That’s when I suddenly realised what was happening and I started thinking “all I need is a par” to have my best round here. I completely lost it for 3 awful shots then suddenly remembered about my NLP skills and got back in the zone and almost holed a tricky shot from the over the back of the green.” …
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People experience themselves and the world they live in through the five senses or modalities – seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling and tasting. These senses or representational Systems are also the way that people encode, organise, store and derive the meaning of things that come into their brain from the outside world.
The brain translates these sensory inputs into the corresponding sensory representations or maps that create a likeness or a synthesis of our original perceptions. As such, they create our own personal map of reality that we store in our brain in the same way that a mapmaker creates a simplified representation of the physical territory described. As Richard Bandler says, “the map is not the territory” – one of the precepts of NLP.
In encoding this information in our brains we don’t just use the five sensory modalities or representational systems …
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Pacing and Leading with NLP
Posted by:People tend to get on better with people who act like they do. As a result, they tend to work better together, communicate well and end up liking each other. We call the result rapport and the basic rapport building mechanism we call matching.
We refer to the ongoing process of matching as pacing – you move as the client moves, matching her sequence of movements and making her feel comfortable, at ease and on the same wavelength as you. This also applies to her …
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An anchor in NLP is a stimulus fired off by one or more simultaneous trigger signals using one or more of the 5 representational systems – visual, auditory, kinaesthetic, gustatory and olfactory. When fired, an anchor triggers a set of memories and the associated feelings, states, behaviours, reflex actions and unconscious programmes that were happening at the time the anchor was set.
A good example of Anchors in my own life comes from my late teenage years, when I went through a sad, lonely and confused phase. The feelings were strongest when I regularly walked along a sea wall on the East Coast quietly humming the latest Beatles record – Hey Jude. The whole repeated experience strongly anchored those memories to the song, the location, the feelings, the smell of the sea, the plants along the walk, the sounds of the boats, etc. Now 40 year’s later, the whole scene, the emotional feelings, all the smells, sounds, images and my state return whenever I experience one or more of those sensations. Sometimes it’s a mixed feeling, when one of the stimuli fires of another memory. If I hear the Hey Jude song, I get those sad feelings mixed with the pleasure of growing up in the 60’s and all those wonderful Beatles songs.
If these anchors can be set up automatically, as in the example above, I can set up anchors deliberately …
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I am considering using this technique with Frank, a friend with a fear of flying. He assures me that it is not an all out phobia, as he flies when he really has to for business and very occasionally for urgent social events. His wife tells me that his fear of flying severely restricts their holiday options. If it was a full-on phobia, I would not get him to recall the experience in the way I have outlined below. Frank is eager to be a case study for me.
Identifying Frank’s Strategies …
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The Therapy Room for NLP & Hypnosis
Posted by:Above all, you must make the therapy room congruent with the therapist and comfortable for the client. You need to provide a hypnotic environment and create a soothing calming influence on the client. Have as few as possible outside or negative influences affecting any of the senses in the interior of the room or in any external view visible to the client.
Don’t allow any interruptions and turn off any phone in the room, including your and you client’s mobile, prior to any client session. Set up an appropriate signalling mechanism with the secretarial services.
Choose an adequately large room that’s reasonably soundproofed and maintain it at a comfortable temperature. Keep pictures to a minimum with generally comfortable images carrying little or no message that the client could pick up inadvertently. Display a small number of certificates and some relevant reference books in a bookcase or on a shelf, just to support your …
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